Hello again, fellow neurospicy lovers! Let’s keep cruising through our exploration of senses in the bedroom and spend this blog learning about touch.
For starters, let’s learn a few fun facts to feed our knowledge. Touch is actually our first sense to develop…with our first experiences beginning in the womb! As we continue to experience touch through our lives, it also causes the releases of those well-known hormones oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine (which can be especially powerful for us neurodivergent folks).
So, how are some ways we can harness this knowledge to amplify our intimate times? Here are some suggestions for inspiration:
- Experiment with different temperatures, textures, and pressure of touch to find which ones are pleasurable to you and your partner. While some may prefer a firm massage or a warm fleece blanket, others may love the thrill of light touch or cool silk bedsheets.
- Explore you or your partner’s Erogenous Zones. These are the parts of the body that are especially sensitive to touch and sexual arousal. While the genitals are obvious points, other areas like the ears, neck, hands, feet, or behind the knees can give powerful and exhilarating responses as well.
- Linger for a few seconds longer and explore the Six Second Kiss technique as coined by Dr. John Gottman. That extra time can reap strong benefits for both arousal and emotional intimacy with your partner.
- Find and learn your Window of Tolerance with touch. Dr. Dan Siegel developed this concept to explain the point of balance in our preferences for touch to avoid becoming overstimulated (hyperarousal) or understimulated (hypoarousal). Finding both your and your partner’s optimal touch experience can pay in dividends for not only your time together but also any solo exploration.
Hopefully this gave you some ideas and encouragement to give yourself (and your partner) a hand as you continue to enrich your most intimate moments together.
As always, Have Fun and Stay Safe My Neurospicy Friends!